πŸŽ₯ Toy Story 4

With the five older kids

πŸŽ₯ Men in Black International

Alone

Wow. Two nights. Two championships by first-time teams. Congrats to the St. Louis Blues and Toronto Raptors! πŸ’ πŸ€

I’m feeling lucky I work for a great company and could bring my team to San Jose for WWDC week. Looking forward to enjoying Alt Conf, Layers, and meeting up with people. I’ll be posting sketchnotes at @sketchnotable if you want to follow along.

WWDC Sketchnote

Excited to be flying out for WWDC. Looking forward to spending the week with my team and meeting up with a few friends I rarely get to see.

πŸ“– 🎧 No Happy Endings: A Memoir

By Nora McInerny

Tried my hand at stand-up comedy for the first time today as part of my OCD treatment. The results were not nearly as terrible as I feared.

πŸ“– 🎧 It’s Okay to Laugh (Crying Is Cool Too)

By Nora McInerny Purmort

πŸ“ Humans

Glitter and sparkle,
Spin and shine,
Throw rainbows on the wall.

Ridges and divots,
Towers and gashes
Comprise identifiable topography.

Infinitely unique,
Utterly alike,
Common in our individuality.

πŸ“ Ordinary

Awash in a sea of special souls,
Kicking and fighting to stay afloat.
Wishing to be noticed,
Hoping to stay hidden.

Lifted up on to the shore,
Left alone to contemplate:
All my quirks and gifts and flaws
Make me just like everybody else.

What a game! St Louis Blues win game 7 in double overtime to head to the conference finals. Well earned win! πŸ’

πŸ”— Marriage is like a car

Marriage

I loved this article from the Art of Manliness: Sunday Firesides: Marriage Isn’t a Game of Russian Roulette

But rather than being the kind of unmanageable risk found in Russian roulette, the risk of marriage is more like that of driving a car. While you can’t 100% eliminate the chance of a crash, nobody lets that stop them from getting behind the wheel every day. Because despite the risk, that mechanical vehicle, like the vehicle of marriage, will take you places you couldn’t otherwise go.

We can allow risk to inhibit us, or we can allow it to help us. When we notice that something feels risky, instead of shutting down, we should recognize that this is something that is more important to us. We need to step up and engage fully and make sure that we meet the risk head on.

πŸ”— Balancing growth and stability

Your life explained through dopamine

I loved this article from the Art of Manliness: Your Life Explained Through Dopamine.

The key is to toggle between these two sets of chemicals, as appropriate β€” allowing yourself to be satisfied, but never wholly so; content, and yet eager for continuous growth. You have to be able to enjoy the excitement of the conquest, and be able to hold onto what you secure.

Understanding the function of brain chemistry has been a huge part of the last few months for me. This precarious balance is crucial to master in order to find true happiness in life. One thing that I especially appreciate is the normalization of the ebb and flow. When we understand that force, we can work with it instead of fighting against it.

πŸ˜‚ A surprise-free shower

I announced that I was going to take a shower. Micah (age 6) got a glint in his eye and started running for the bathroom. I said, β€œMicah, I have a favor to ask of you.”

β€œOh, come on!”

As I started getting ready, he said, β€œDad, why don’t you want me to?” At this point, it is clear that he is understanding I don’t want him to dump cold water on me like every other day that I shower.

I answered, β€œWell, sometimes it’s kind of hard, you know?”

His solution was simple. β€œYou could know I’m coming, and so you could turn your back. That way it doesn’t get on you-know-what.”