This might have been the most productive Saturday in months. Looking forward to relaxing with the Jazz game tonight. ๐Ÿ€

๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ Pause practice is a great centering tool I learned about today. At any point, take three deep, slow, relaxing breaths and allow your mind to be still. Iโ€™m excited to try it already.

From my Daily Calm

Pause practice

Breathtaking blossom view on the way in to work today

Blossoms

Micah (age 6): โ€œDad, can you play soccer with me?โ€

Me: โ€œNot in the house, bud.โ€

Micah: โ€œOh, thatโ€™s right. Can you play with me in the front yard? It would be good for you to get some fresh air.โ€

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๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ This is so important to remember. Even with good things, and especially with the bad, nothing lasts forever. This is particularly helpful with emotions. Allow yourself to feel fully, and let go when it is time.

From my Daily Calm

Like a sandcastle, all is temporary

Iโ€™ve been thinking more and more about setting up a personal newsletter to share blog posts and happenings in my life. Iโ€™ve been looking at Buttondown thanks to @macgenie but havenโ€™t fully committed yet.

๐ŸŽฅ Mia and the White Lion

With three of my kids

๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ This. So much this. I hope to remember. I strive for enlightenment.

From my Daily Calm

Enlightenment is the quiet acceptance of what is

๐ŸŽง Loved the latest episode of Core Intuition. I resonated with @danielpunkassโ€™s tendency to beat himself up (and then to beat myself up for beating myself up), and appreciated @mantonโ€™s validation and support to him (and me, since I applied it to myself). Great conversation!

๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ I look forward to writing about this more, but I had a great experience yesterday acknowledging my actual emotions and giving myself permission to feel them.

๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ This is the reminder I needed this week. I have been feeling discouraged by how far I still feel I need to go in my treatment and managing of my OCD. But the only way to get there is one step at a time. It helps to remember and celebrate my wins along the way.

Our way to practice is one step at a time

๐Ÿ€ Wow. What a great game to watch. Congratulations to Virginia for an amazing tournament and a fantastic win.

Gorgeous view of new life out the window

๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ Substitute mind for body, and this feels exactly like my experience over the past few months. I have to get to know myself better and recognize which parts of myself are not actually myself and learn to deal with those. But gently.

From my Daily Calm

I said to my body, โ€œI want to be your friendโ€

๐Ÿ”— Not responsible

You are not responsible for other peopleโ€™s feelings

I loved this article from the Art of Manliness: Sunday Firesides: You Are Not Responsible for Other Peopleโ€™s Feelings

But when your decision doesnโ€™t carry moral import, and you make it with all the politeness and respect possible, then youโ€™re not responsible for how the other person deals with your choice. Whether they deal with it resiliently or not, rationally or not, generously or not, is up to them. You cannot control their reaction. And you cannot make your own decisions based on their expected response.

Coming to terms with unnecessary and unhealthy guilt has been a huge part of my mental health recovery process. It is vital to learn how to correctly identify your areas of responsibility and neither shirk nor stretch them.